The reason is that direct contact implies that you are not over the relationship and you are still attempting to make amends. Take it as a good sign that a second chance could happen.
And although that is the truth, your ex may be on guard if he feels that is the case. Bear in mind, however, that if you know your neediness drove him away the first time, you most likely have some work to do on yourself before trying to rekindle with him.
Przybylski and Weinstein followed up with a new experiment to see, in which contexts, the presence of a cell phone matters the most.
This time, each pair of strangers was assigned a casual topic (their thoughts and feelings about plastic trees) or a meaningful topic (the most important events of the past year) to discuss — again, either with a cell phone or a notebook nearby.
The strangers left their own belongings in a waiting area and proceeded to a private booth.
Within the booth, they found two chairs facing each other and, a few feet away, out of their direct line of vision, there was a desk that held a book and one other item.
In contrast, there were significant differences if the topic was meaningful.
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Nowadays, it’s not unusual to have one’s phone handy on the table, easily within reach for looking up movie times, checking e-mails, showing off photos, or taking a call or two.
It’s a rare person who doesn’t give in to a quick glance at the phone every now and then.
Three months of bad behavior cannot be erased with one pleasant phone call or dinner date. Get comfortable, because it isn’t going to happen by the weekend.
A safe amount of time to wait would be half as long as the duration of your relationship. Much like the song “How Can I Miss You When You Won’t Go Away,” your ex can’t miss you, or forget the way you were, if he continues to see you at the gym or bumps into you at the coffee shop in his office lobby. This means not only cutting contact directly (no texts, e-mails, phone calls), but also indirectly via Facebook, Twitter, or the occasional random run-in. Once you have let the recommended amount of time go by, you can then resurface.For example, if you dated for three months, you should not contact him for a month and a half. He needs to wonder where you went, and he can- not do that if your status keeps popping up in his news feed. However, you should not contact your ex directly if possible. If he is still into you at all, he will slowly start to come around after this encounter.