Dating after 4 months
If your issues are the same every breakup, address any hurt, anger or trust issues in yourself, and look for patterns. People have unfinished business, and it can get in the way of an amazing relationship. I felt really good about where I was when I met Alan.”How it happened: “My best friend met her fiancé online and convinced me to try online dating when I was 47.I was skeptical, but gave a try—if only to find a date for her wedding.Later, a spiritual advisor told me I survived because I ‘wanted to experience love.’ When I was 49, I had foot surgery.My friend told me to call her brother, who had the same surgery.We planned to hike a mountain for our first date, but it was pouring rain.I opened the door, took one look at him and said, 'I'll get my rain coat.' There was chemistry, but more importantly, a beautiful connection.I kept saying to myself, ‘You just never know.’ Nine months into Match (and after dates with 10 to 15 other guys), Rod messaged me. He wasn’t like the typical guys I met—not phoney or ‘hey, look at me.’ We’re different religions, but our values are the same.And his grown kids were happy to see happy; they always made me feel welcome. Four months later we got married.”Her advice: “You get discouraged. When you get over 50, you say, ‘The chance of this happening is slim to none.’ But it happens. Put yourself into places where you may meet somebody.
Then, he came to my house and tried to teach me to play guitar. I moved in with him six months after we met, and he got down on his knee right after.” Her advice: “At a church group, a woman older than me who’d never married said she was inspired by me and asked me what to do. So I just lived my life and left the rest to the universe.”How it happened: “My ex and I never married during our 16-year relationship, but we had a daughter.
It’s a well-told myth: that a woman over a certain age has a better chance of getting struck by lightning than finding a mate.
Even movies and TV shows have convinced generations that if they didn’t marry in their childbearing years, it would never happen. These seven women prove it’s possible to get married at any age—and that true love really is worth waiting for.
He wanted to get to know me and see me for who I am.
That’s when I began to think he was the one.”Her advice: “Keep dreaming. The only drawback is that I wanted children, but I’m close with my friends’ kids. And now there are many options for having kids in your 40s.If I wanted to buy someone or myself a gift, I did. And what my grandmother says about love is true: What doesn’t happen in years, happens in minutes.”It’s a well-told myth: that a woman over a certain age has a better chance of getting struck by lightning than finding a mate.